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After The Affair – Ten Steps Of Healing

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Sexual infidelity is betrayal of the deepest kind and most marriages don’t fully recover. That’s why Jesus said it was one of the few grounds for divorce (Matthew 19:9). For a marriage to heal both the unfaithful spouse and the one betrayed must fight hard to rebuild their relationship. After disclosure, couples may seek pastoral or professional help. This is important because without outside accountability most couples will not do the work necessary to heal the damage even if they choose to stay married...

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The Root Of The Fruit In Marriage

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"Portions of this post were adapted from Catching Foxes: A Gospel-Guided Journey to Marriage"I now realize that any good discussion about the roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives in marriage should first and often highlight our deep need for the grace of God. Fulfilling the roles is fruit. God reigning in our hearts is the root.

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How The Mercy of God Flourishes in Suffering

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Reality, to a large degree, is constructed subjectively through the processes of the mind.  ”Facts” are perceived, variables of that perception shape an interpretation, and these interpretations ultimately serve to shape a person’s experiential reality.  By no means does this diminish the fact that objective, absolute truth exists, but it is important to recognize that this process of perception, interpretation, and conclusion has a significant impact on the way people experience life.  Understanding this can have a profound impact on helping people walk through difficult seasons of suffering.

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Why You Can Trust Your Bibile

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Critics who doubt the reliability and trustworthiness of the biblical accounts of Jesus’ life have issued a make-or-break challenge to the church. They ask us: “How can we be sure the Bible can be trusted as accurate?”

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But What Does The Bible Say?

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Now that the Supreme Court has issued its sweeping ruling in favor of same-sex marriage, we can expect an avalanche of commentary, analysis, and punditry. I’m not a law professor, a politician, a talk show host, or a public intellectual (whatever that is). I’m a pastor. I study and teach the Bible for a living. Which means, among all the things I may not be an expert on, I may be able to say something meaningful from the Scriptures. So as we pour over legal opinions and internet commentary, let us not forget what the Bible says.

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Quick To Judge

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Sometimes we're quicker to judge than to comfort.This hit me recently on the streets of Philadelphia, where I live. I walked by a young homeless person begging on the street and immediately thought to myself, "I wonder what they did to get themselves here."Wow. That's about as far from a gracious response as you can get!

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When A Person Can’t Forgive Her Own Self

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When our Christian counselee says something like, “I just can’t forgive myself” as biblical counselors how do we respond?  Perhaps it’s a client who has committed adultery or had an abortion or done something contrary to Scripture and despite asking for and receiving God’s forgiveness, she refuses to forgive herself.   

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How Do I Know I’m A Christian?

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Whenever counseling Christians looking for assurance of salvation, I take them to 1 John. This brief epistle is full of help for determining whether we are in the faith or not. In particular, there are three signs in 1 John given to us so we can answer the question “Do I have confidence or condemnation?”

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Victory Over The Shame Of Sexual Abuse

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On several occasions I spoken on the topic of sexual abuse and the shame associated with it. Shame is such a pervasive part of any kind of abuse or any sin. What has profoundly impacted me as I’ve thought about all this is how my brothers and sisters are overwhelmed by the sin of sexual abuse and the shame that accompanies it. 

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Connectedness

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What does the Bible say about being connected?A Word of the YearMy business coach and her VIP group encourages everyone to choose and be led by a “word of the year”. The first year my word was Believe because I knew that everything I did as an entrepreneur should be solely influenced by the beliefs and values I held as a Christian.

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