ABC Blog

“Then they cried out to the Lord in their trouble…,” Psalm 107:13. According to 2 Corinthians 7:10, we cry out to God from one of two kinds of grief: “…godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. ”  Godly grief produces repentance without regret.  Worldly grief produces only death.  Trained counselors, and those who would minister to those in prison, must be able to distinguish between the two.

Keep Reading


"But for me it is good to be near God; I have made the Lord my refuge, that I may tell of all your works." (v.28) It is a grace to get it right because so often I get it wrong. No, I don't mean that I fall into gross and willing sin and I don't mean that I am seduced by the old arguments of new atheism. No, I don't mean that I occasionally question the tenets of my faith or question whether ministry is really worth it. No, getting it wrong is much more subtle than that.

Keep Reading


As one who has dedicated my life to helping people grow through their life struggles, I often face the temptation to become weary. “Why do I do this?” I query within myself. A close examination of that question reveals that much of my motivation is driven by a sense of obligation—the sense that I “should” do this because of how good God has been to me—or fear—I mean, what else can I do, since this is where I have landed in my life pursuit.

Keep Reading


When it comes to conflict in relationships, Ken Sande says there are really only three kinds of people: peace-fakers, peace-breakers and peace-makers. Peace-breakers are prideful and power up. If they don’t get their way, they blow up, escalating conflict like gas on a flickering flame.

Keep Reading



When we counsel a spouse who reports being in an emotionally destructive marriage, the focus often turns to what she can do better in the hopes that she can influence her spouse to change.  Biblical counsel then usually moves into helping a women to submit more, love harder, learn to communicate more respectfully, becoming forbearing, developing patience, and figuring out how to have a sexual relationship with someone who treats her cruelly or as if the only one whose thoughts and feelings matter are his. 

Keep Reading



“I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I promise, I won’t do it again”, sobbed Cory, a nine year old who was on his way to his bedroom for the evening after hitting his little sister, again.  As parents we’ve all been there.  A ninth hour apology made to avoid the consequences of parental punishment.

Keep Reading


"And He saved them out of their distresses.  14 He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death, And broke their chains in pieces," Psalm 107:13b-14. In the last post, I wrote about two kinds of grief; one produces repentance, the other death.  This is a critical point.  Godly sorrow or grief over one's sins produces change.  A good tree (Godly grief) produces good fruit (repentance, change).

Keep Reading


Communication is hard, especially “in the moment.”  It is one thing to be convicted by a sermon on the power of the tongue or the way our words reveal our heart.  It is another thing to be “in the moment” with your spouse (child, sibling, parent, friend, co-worker, enemy, etc…) and to have the awareness, self-control, courage, and humility to acknowledge what is ruling your heart and change the direction of the “discussion”.  That is the purpose of this article, to help you “in the moment”.

Keep Reading


1 2 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 41 42