(Excerpt from When Home Hurts, by Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson, releasing September 10, 2021. Find more information and pre-order at christiancounseling.com) I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality always helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the […]
Because the image of God is sacred, an assault upon one of his image-bearers through domestic abuse is an attack upon God himself. Smartly-dressed Mike and his wife Debbie walked into my office for their first session. One look at Debbie revealed that she had been crying, but was trying to hold it together. Mike […]
Those grieving loved ones lost, recovering from abuse, walking through a dark night of the soul and suffering in many ways have been given a great light. It’s really dark right now, but the street outside my house is well lit. Every house in sight from my house is trimmed with bright Christmas lights, and […]
Jesus’ exemplary life and the way that He responded to difficult circumstances serves as a model for husbands who desire marital health. In our previous post, we looked at how we, as biblical counselors, can use the teaching of 1 Peter 3:7 as a model for husbands who desire marital health. With Peter’s teaching, we […]
As biblical counselors serving married couples, we can use the teaching of 1 Peter 3:7 as a model for husbands who desire marital health. In my clinical practice as a biblical counselor, I counsel a lot of men who have hurt their wives – emotionally, verbally or even physically. Every counselor who has worked with […]
One of the most consistent themes that emerges in counseling young couples, especially in the critical first five years, is the dramatic difference between the time and money that was invested in their wedding compared to the time and money that was invested in preparing for the rest of their lives together as husband and wife.
<p> Sadly, when many of the couples I counsel first enter my office, conflict is frequent and often volatile. Sometimes, the issues couples fight over are so minor that they can’t even remember the cause of the fight by the time they come to counseling. Still, the fighting is constant. They are asking, “Why do we fight and quarrel so much?”Fortunately, God foresaw that this would be a common problem, not just in marriage, but among</p>
Sadly, when many of the couples I counsel first enter my office, conflict is frequent and often volatile. Sometimes, the issues couples fight over are so minor that they can’t even remember the cause of the fight by the time they come to counseling. Still, the fighting is constant. They are asking, “Why do we fight and quarrel so much?”Fortunately, God foresaw that this would be a common problem, not just in marriage, but among
Christians have idols that we love to hate, at least superficially, like materialism, pride and sex. For some reason, it is much easier to see how they can divert our attention from the Lord than the idols that we love to love, like conservative politics, the American dream, and the nuclear family. These, we elevate to the status of “Christian values.” Yet, even the good and well-intentioned things that we do as Christ-followers are idols when they cause Christ to lose preemminence in our lives.
Marriage is hard. Even in the best marriages, the heart of each spouse tends to turn inward and build the kingdom of self. Most of my marriage counseling clients at least claim to be believers in Christ. Most of them regularly attend a bible-teaching church. Most of them are in some kind of small group community within their church. And…most of them are seeking biblical counsel because their marriage is struggling in some way— perhaps profoundly.
