Posted on 7/25/2014 by Biblical Soul Care Harvest Bible Chapel
On several occasions I spoken on the topic of sexual abuse and the shame associated with it. Shame is such a pervasive part of any kind of abuse or any sin. What has profoundly impacted me as I’ve thought about all this is how my brothers and sisters are overwhelmed by the sin of sexual abuse and the shame that accompanies it.
Driven Undercover by Shame
I’ve also thought a lot lately about my own shame. I have a propensity to want to hide or depersonalize my pain by distraction—just not being real with people. Shame leads me to a place where I can’t even worship without self-consciousness.
Shame is universal and started in the garden of Eden. God covered our shame over and over but Christ absorbed it once and for all at the Cross. We get that intellectually, but those who have been abused hear other voices—voices of condemnation and humiliation. Their shame seems so much deeper. It can easily enter the soul like deadly venom. Shame drives us undercover, but the cost is great. We can hide so well. God calls us out of hiding, asking us to consider, “Where are you?”
Posted on 7/23/2014 by Tullian Tchividjian
For a long time now, I have been absolutely convinced that the way most Christians think about their final destination is influenced more by ancient Greek philosophy than it is the Bible: we think of ultimate salvation as being salvation from the body, not salvation of the body; salvation from the world, not salvation of the world.
One of the reasons this is so important to consider is because our eschatology dramatically effects our missiology. In other words, if we don’t
Posted on 7/21/2014 by Margaret Ashmore
"They heal the brokenness of the daughter of My people superficially, saying, 'Peace, peace,' But there is no peace.” Jeremiah 8:11
Psalm 1 is the gateway to the whole of the Psalms. 5th century theologian St. Gerome called this the “psalm of psalms and the Christian handbook on the whole of the bible.” In light of its clear and life altering implications the simplicity is striking. In a few short verses the
Posted on 7/16/2014 by Kevin DeYoung
Question 1: Are You a Fake Friend?
There is one defining characteristic of the phony friend in Proverbs: he uses people. The fake friend makes friends with people who can give him things. He establishes relationships solely for personal gain. In Proverbs this means money.
- “Wealth brings many new friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend” (19:4).
- “The poor is disliked by his neighbor, but
Posted on 7/14/2014 by Leslie Vernick
Last month I received an avalanche of responses on my Facebook page to last month’s blog “Let’s Not Call it Abuse”. Many women recounted painful experiences of invalidation, minimization and silence from their Christian counselor when she disclosed what was happening at home.
From the overwhelming feedback I received, it obvious I hit a raw nerve and I think it best that we, as biblical counselors pay attention.
Posted on 7/7/2014 by Bob Kellemen
It’s instructive that the Bible not only alerts us to watch out for doctrinal heresy, but also for relational heresy.
The Bible commands us not only to be careful out there about people who are false teachers; we also must be careful out there about people who are false lovers—divisive, biting, devouring, overbearing, quarrelsome, and contentious people.
Consider just a few of the times that the Bible warns us to be careful, to be on guard against, and to watch out for divisive people.
Posted on 7/2/2014 by Brad Hambrick
This is one blog in a series where I will be reflecting on the subject of mental illness. My purpose in raising this series of questions is not to lead the reader to the same conclusions I have, but to facilitate better conversations and reflections on this subject within the church.
When engaging a difficult and highly personal subject, it is better to start with good questions than a list of answers. The better our questions are, the more responsibly we will utilize the answers of which we are confidant, the more humbly we will approach areas of uncertainty, and the more we will honor one another in the process of learning.
Posted on 6/30/2014 by Paul Tripp
We're in the middle of looking at three mentalities that are essential to creating and sustaining a healthy relational lifestyle. Last week we discussed what it meant to live in our relationships withA Harvest Mentality.
Here's the second mentality:
2) YOU MUST LIVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH AN INVESTMENT MENTALITY:
We're all treasure hunters. We all live to gain, maintain, keep, and enjoy things that are valuable to us. Our behavior in any given situation of life is our attempt to get what is valuable to us out of that situation. There are things in your life to which you have assigned importance, and once you have, you are no longer willing to live without them (these principles are laid out in Matthew 6:19–33).
Posted on 6/27/2014 by Justin Holcomb
Domestic violence is extremely prevalent and damaging, but frequently hidden.
Intimate partner violence is pervasive in U.S. society. One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. Nearly three out of four of Americans personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence.