Posted on 3/10/2014 by Leslie Vernick
When we counsel a spouse who reports being in an emotionally destructive marriage, the focus often turns to what she can do better in the hopes that she can influence her spouse to change. Biblical counsel then usually moves into helping a women to submit more, love harder, learn to communicate more respectfully, becoming forbearing, developing patience, and figuring out how to have a sexual relationship with someone who treats her cruelly or as if the only one whose thoughts and feelings matter are his.
Posted on 3/7/2014 by Kevin DeYoung
What must we leave behind if we are to follow Christ?
The simplest answer is that we must leave behind idolatry. That’s the very first commandment—you shall have no other gods before me. They don’t have to be obvious representations of the divine; they don’t have to be stone or wood or marble. There are all sorts of gods: education, athletics, marriage, choice, power, self-expression, beauty, achievement. Whatever you give your whole life for, there’s your idol.
Posted on 3/3/2014 by Paul Tripp
This is the first devotional in an 8-part series on Relationships.
Be honest with yourself. In some way, you've been disappointed with every relationship you've ever had. It's the universal experience of everyone this side of eternity. No, it's not that you've met the wrong people or that you lack relational skills. It's that every relationship you've had, you've had in a fallen world.
Posted on 2/26/2014 by Greg Wilson
Marriage is hard. Even in the best marriages, the heart of each spouse tends to turn inward and build the kingdom of self. Most of my marriage counseling clients at least claim to be believers in Christ. Most of them regularly attend a bible-teaching church. Most of them are in some kind of small group community within their church. And…most of them are seeking biblical counsel because their marriage is struggling in some way— perhaps profoundly.
Posted on 2/24/2014 by Biblical Soul Care Harvest Bible Chapel
Jim loves God. He appears to love his wife and kids very much; he’s a leader in the church. He looks a lot like you and me. Jim, however, has a secret. He’s been living a double life for some time. At first it bothered him a lot, not so much anymore—he has developed a calloused heart. His conscience is seared from neglect.
Posted on 2/19/2014 by Twelve Stones Ministries
Helping your Child heal from sexual abuse
The unimaginable has happened… You have been very careful to watch your children; you know there are many dangers they face. You were very careful with babysitter selections, you did not let your children play unattended, etc. and yet… Your daughter has been sexually abused.
Posted on 2/17/2014 by Tullian Tchividjian
A couple months back I wrote about Reader’s Digest Christianity, and how it reduced the Christian faith to pithy, easily-achievable goals that ensure our personal improvement. Here, I have a different (though depressingly similar) target: “LiveStrong” Christianity. LiveStrong bracelets are today even more popular than the infamous WWJD bracelets were 10 years ago, despite the public fall from grace of their namesake, Lance Armstrong.
Posted on 2/14/2014 by Rachael Rosser
In my office, I am daily bombarded with the painful reality of living in a fallen world. The topics that are discussed range from singleness to marital infidelity to miscarriage to rebellious teens. The statement that is often made is how "this" (whatever this is) does not feel good, or the question that is asked is how is "this" good? I think as Christians, especially American Christians, we have often let our "comfort culture" shape our view of the word good versus allowing the Lord to define good.
Posted on 2/12/2014 by Susan Thomas
Sexual intimacy is God’s design for every marriage. Sex is His beautiful idea! He holds the copyright. Yet, every counselor hears the common complaint about the lack of passion or health in the bedroom. These cries from the hearts of our clients come in multiple forms and packaging, but all lead to a place of discontent and death inside the marriage relationship.
We have not had sex in months.
I don’t feel attracted to her anymore.